Reply To: Is there a tactful way to say Shadchan prefers money?

DY – You seem to answer me many times based on what you assumed I said, but not what I said. I said we have to pay what Hashem asks, not what people in the tri state area decide. You then tell me I can’t decide not to pay. I never said that. The word chessed does not mean “free of charge”. I said (several times) that OF COURSE you pay, but the payment should be based on halacha and NOT on what you and your group of friends decided for me.