Oomis, you must be a big tzadekes (I assume youre a woman), and very out of town’
I wish I were, (correct assumption), and nope. People sometimes don’t like to be shadchanim for the same reason that most people do not like getting paid solely by commission. There is no guarantee of a decent payoff for each potential sale, unless it goes through. So if one goes into shadchanus with the idea of making big bucks, that probably is not the best hashkafa for such a holy endeavor. Neither do I believe that a professional shadchan should be given a “candy dish.” But most poor people do not have a spare $1000 lying around, and if they have more than one child, what are they supposed to do?