“it doesnt do the same when i tell my wife “this is for your birthday, baby, and anniversary”.”
So dont tell her:) I disagree- trust me, giving her a huge piece of bling does PLENTY :))
Anyways more ideas (this is fun, Im pretending what I would like to get..) perfume set, expensive handbag/wallet/clutch or accesory for her wardrobe,( ask a friend of hers to pick it out for you) new set of dishes or silverware, trip to a spa with her sister or friend, plan all the details and surprise her with a FULL day date, (pack a picnic, drive out of town, go horseback riding on the beach, paint pottery, and go out to eat..) new window treatments for the living room, sign her up for art/guitar/dance lessons, gym membership (if she wont take it as an insult:) take her to Mac and tell her to buy as much as she wants- budget 250 dollars, new linen set or throw pillows to change the look, a dishwasher, bouquet of silk flowers for her dresser or dining room table..
Tip: DONT buy her a microwave or something she needs anyways.. get her something she would love but wouldnt splurge on herself..